Ask DG #10

Need someone to talk about your problems? Got an opinion that you want to share? Send in your responses to The DG Blog and DG will answer them.




Dear DG,
My girlfriend and I are going to two different schools which require me to be in another state while she stays home with our friends and her ex girlfriend…It only bothers me because they live close to each other and hang out all the time. How do I stop myself from being jealous?
-Bethany, NY

Dear Bethany,
It is hard to deal with the possibility of doing a long distance relationship but it all comes down to one thing – trust. If your girl is a very loyal, trust worthy partner then you shouldn’t worry. If she’s the opposite of that, then that could be a tall tell sign of a red flag. Talk to her about what you feel. Let her know your concerns. Remember, relationships are all about good communication.
-DG

Dear DG,
It seems like all of my friends are moving up with their lives. They have great jobs, have their own apartment and have cars. They’re accomplishing all of these things before their 30s and I feel like I’m lacking behind. I feel so jealous and I’m starting to hate myself for not doing some of these things since I’m still in school getting my degree. It really sucks.
-Richard, CA

Dear Richard,
Don’t feel bad about yourself. Yes, there are some people who will get ahead of others but don’t feel like you can’t accomplish them. You still have your whole life ahead of you to do those things. Don’t feel pressured to try and meeting these goals early on if you can’t do it. Perseverance does pay off in the end. Have more faith in yourself and be patient. It’ll come around.
-DG

Dear DG,
These past years of high school have been really sucky for me. I’m the outcast since everyone teases and makes fun of me. People say high school is the best years of your life but I just can’t believe them. I’m thinking of dropping out and just go straight to adult education. But I got a year left so I don’t know if I should just quit or not. What should I do?
-Eva, TX

Dear Eva,
I really can’t give you a good fully legit advice since I don’t know your situation really well. How bad is the teasing? Are you bullied? Do you feel safe of going to school? I suggest you can talk to your school’s social worker. Also depending on how bad it is, just stick to high school till the very end. I mean like you said, you are a senior so just endure a little more. When you graduate, most of these people you deal with you won’t ever see them again for the rest of your life.  Oh and the best years of one’s life is actually in college. Get your diploma so you can go over and actually make good friends. Good luck.
-DG