Chapter One:
“Life is just more comfortable if you’re
honest and open about everything. I spend so many years being in the closet
about one thing or another”
-Antony Sher
I knew I was different back when I was a
teenager. My cousin and I went to the same high school and every other week she
had a new crush on a boy. While she went boy crazy, I stayed my distance since I
wasn’t really interested in trying to have a relationship with the opposite
sex. Sure I had some experiences like having my first kiss with a guy but I just
couldn’t understand what the big deal was.
I notice that I was different than all
my other girl cousins when I first had my real crush with one of my friends –
and yes, my friend was a girl. I knew right then and there that my tastes were
unlike all the other girls in school. Couple years later, I told my closet
cousin that I liked girls and she wasn’t surprised at all:
Me: I have to tell you something
Cousin: What? What’s wrong babes?
Me: Well you see [long pause] I have a
crush on my friend…I really do like her…It’s like I get butterflies in my
stomach every time I’m around her…
Cousin: So…You’re a lesbian then…Right?
Me: [pauses] Well…Yeah…I am…I’m a
lesbian…
[Brief moment of silence between us]
Cousin: I KNEW IT!!!!
Me: WHAT???
Cousin: Dude, since freshmen year I knew
you’ll end up telling me you like girls cause you never seemed to have a crush
on a guy. I was like “Watch this chick telling me she gay later on…”
Me: But…but…How did you know? I mean I didn’t
even know myself…
Cousin: It’s the way you act sometimes…You
gave of signs and signals…
Me: Oh…
Of course when I came out to my aunt a
couple years later after that, it wasn’t really all that welcoming:
Aunt: So, is it true that you’re a
lesbian?
Me: [long pause] Yeah…
[Very long awkward pause]
Aunt: You’re going to hell…
Me: Ok…
I was so scared of coming out of the
closet. But after that, I actually felt better; even started to love myself
even more. Sure not everyone embraces homosexuality, but I learn that you can
never please everybody. It doesn’t make sense to be someone you’re not just to
satisfy people. Ever since the day I came out, I’ve learn a lot about myself
not only as a person but also what I’m all about.
Right now, I’m very content with where
my life is going. I have a girlfriend who I love. Most of my family members
accept me and I feel a lot more confident now that I have no secrets to hide. I
don’t’ care what people think about my sexuality. It’s my life, not theirs.
*article published on dgotay.tumblr.com
in September 2011
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